Hi Beth, I was just wondering why you don't talk to me anymore, did I do something, did something happen? What's the matter?
Normally I'd be explaining what happened, but I basically explained it in my reply to him, so I'll let my response do the talking.
What happened is that I realized you have no respect for the boundaries I try to set when we hang out, and I'm tired of hearing you talk about women like their opinions aren't worth anything because of their 'shit' taste in movies/music/guys/whatever (which is completely subjective and not up to you to decide), or like they are nothing more than sexual objects for you to get off to. And when I DO call out people with the same misogynistic attitudes as you, you make jokes about it. I don't find it funny, I don't find it cool, and I don't like what I was seeing from you.
And just for the record, I remember you telling me a while ago that you stopped caring what other people thought of you and that you enjoy being an asshole, and that's fine. I'm not asking you to change (especially not for me, since we aren't, you know, DATING), I'm just disengaging myself from a friendship which is no longer working on my end.
Pretty straightforward, I thought. I got this series of messages from him afterwards:
I can see that. The last few years I was in a really dark place. But I've finally climbed out of that hole only to realise that a bunch of people that I wanted to be there, weren't. And it made me sad
I was finally starting to be in good spirits again, for the first time in years and you weren't there anymore and wouldn't respond to any messages until now
And some of them I know were poisoned against me after certain misunderstandings, others I just flat out called out on their shit, but with you. I never knew I did anything to bring you down, I always liked having you around. I never meant to drive YOU away
It didn't matter how down I was feeling, seeing you would always make me smile
So the reason I'm posting about this is: What do you guys think? Should I respond back to that? Should I give him another chance? Or should I go with my gut and just leave it alone? Any thoughts are welcome right now.